May 16th, 2016

“I just now finished reading your book Death Benefits. Wow. Every woman should receive this book at the age of 18 even if she does not read it until much later in life. ‘An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.’ Or rather, ‘an ounce of understanding/awareness is worth a pound (or a thousand pounds) of confusion, heartache and stagnation.’

Thanks for making your insights, and those of your clients and friends, available to everyone through your books.

This is the first time I have ever reached out to an author in any way.”

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January 30th, 2015

WHAT READERS ARE SAYING

“When I first saw the title of your book Death Benefits and the words “How losing a parent can change an adult’s life—For the better,” I was a little taken back. But I felt comforted to know that someone out there could relate and that other people might understand the same thing I felt and continue to feel on a daily basis. I sat down and read your entire book in one sitting. Thank you for writing such an honest book. It has helped me see things in a different light. My day has gotten a little brighter, and I am grateful. I hope to read more books that you have written.”

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January 30th, 2015

“Thank you for your wise words. My parents died recently, and seeing their death as an opportunity to become fully authentic in the world struck a cord.  I feel their presence, but it is very free and very light, different then my experience when they were alive.  I think hanging on to the negative aspects of how they saw the world or me is really not in accord with the way it feels now.  I like the idea of examining their legacies for the ones that promote health and well being and letting the rest go.  I have passed Death Benefits on to my 4 sisters.”

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April 1st, 2013

“Dear Dr. Safer,

I just found you online and immediately ordered three of your books (The Normal One, Forgiving and Not Forgiving, and Death Benefits). Just reading your website has provided more validation than a lifetime of therapy and support by extended family and friends.”

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November 18th, 2012

“Your book Death Benefits is so profoundly truthful that at first blush it almost seems obscene.”

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November 18th, 2012

“I have read lots of books and written lots of book reviews, but have never contacted an author until today. I recently read your book Death Benefits and I am so grateful to have found this resource. It has helped me immensely so I needed to let you know how much your book has touched and helped me. I lost my dad about 2 months ago. I have been angry with him since 1990 due to his alcoholism and treatment of my brother, mother, myself, and his own body that I was completely ambivalent about his death and everything involved with it….I set out to figure out why I was so unhinged with grief. I went to a few grief counseling sessions (not helpful) and read no less than 10 books about death, dying, and grief (also not helpful).

Then one day I was at the library and found your book. When I got to page 35, where you wrote “Appreciating and admiring her did not cancel out how difficult it had been to be her daughter, especially for the last quarter century when so little felt real” I was so happy to have found someone who understands, who gets ME and doesn’t just throw religion and stages of grief at me. I felt very strongly that I needed to thank you for putting your experience and research onto paper. I’ve said lots of words here, but do not have quite the right words to describe how helpful your book has been.”

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-O: The Oprah magazine

October 24th, 2011

“It’s not all bad news. Writes psychotherapist Jeanne Safer, PhD in her taboo-breaking first sentence, “The death of your parents can be the best thing that ever happens to you.” That’s not a no-more-tears prescription: it’s a strategy for getting a payback from your pain. Safer tells how a midlife orphan can sort through memories, salvaging what heals, packing away guilt and resentment, perhaps even unearthing a legacy of love.”

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-AARP Bulletin Today

August 3rd, 2011

“Equal parts anecdotal, autobiographical and self-help, Death Benefits offers readers a new way to grieve—and grow in the process.”

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