January 30th, 2015

WHAT READERS ARE SAYING

“I have just discovered your work on sibling strife! Full of tears, I recently told my brother that it is time for us to say goodby. Since then I have been extremely upset, and searched for something to read, and then I came across you. I want to thank you for having the courage to dig into this topic. Your life and childhood story is very similar to mine, and the knowledge and explanation in your books and articles is finally such a relief! I don’t know how to thank you. I want to read all of your books as I relate to you so much. With love.”

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January 30th, 2015

“I appreciate your validation for the hurt that can be experienced by family members at the hands of family members. For many people, your words could be the first time a hurting person finds the family blame removed from them.”

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January 30th, 2015

“Cain’s Legacy is the only book I’ve seen that has shed any light on what’s going on underneath the miscommunication, misunderstandings, and hurt in families, and the only one that offers a strategy for trying to improve things. Congratulations and thank you for writing such an important book.”

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November 18th, 2012

“I want to thank you for offering a very different view of sibling relationships. Until I heard you speak today on NPR I’d never heard anyone else say they felt this way about their brother. I have felt so guilty for my feelings. I believed there was something wrong with me, that I am an evil, bad person for feeling this way. Just to hear someone say it was ok was so comforting. I am not alone and I am not despicable. Thank you for writing your book, and for tackling this painful subject.” 

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November 18th, 2012

“I heard your interview regarding Cain’s Legacy on NPR last week.  About 6 months ago, I was shocked to learn that my older sister has been carrying a lot of resentment and hostility toward me. We were never particularly close, and dealing with her has been difficult for as long as I can remember.  Still the experience left me feeling awful.  In the end, I concluded that if events went so poorly between the first siblings [in the Bible], then why should I expect something ideal with my sibling?  Hearing you on the radio affirm what I had come to realize through my experience brought me a great deal of comfort. Thank you for that.”

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November 18th, 2012

“I am writing to let you know how grateful I am for your book on sibling rivalry. I returned to the midwest when my father’s health was failing and it seemed that no one noticed. I re-located my career near them to assist. My siblings have been outrageous!! Your book has been a validation for my experiences. It is amazing to witness the morph of siblings… your book is helping me firm my emotional resolve with grace and ease. I thank you for your work!”

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November 18th, 2012

“Cain’s Legacy was like a message straight to me. I had just decided yesterday that I must end contact with my sister because I felt that it is harming me. Your comments about toxic relationships described exactly what I had come to realize, but I was frightened of admitting to anyone that I no longer want my sister in my life; I thought that I would be considered unnatural and the unreasonable one. I just wanted to tell you how your book resonated with me.”

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May 20th, 2012

“Thank you so much for writing Cain’s Legacy. The book has opened my eyes, finally, to why any relationship with my sisters has been so fraught, going on 54 years. Many of the stories in the book resonate deeply. I was reduced to tears more than once…. After reading your book I feel a great weight has been lifted. Your book cracked open a very hardened shell.”

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March 6th, 2012

“I think parents should include this awareness in their parenting skills. It would have been great to read your book before I had children.”

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-Winnipeg Free Press

March 6th, 2012

“Cain’s Legacy is an engaging albeit sometimes disturbing exploration of the complex lives of human siblings…. For those suffering troubled relationships with brothers and sisters, Cain’s Legacy may open a door to understanding why and just perhaps the path to reconciliation.”

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